It’s been about seven months since the last time I wrote. A lot has happened and I thought the need to share a little.
In less than a month it’ll be my 25th birthday. This is definitely over said
but just like that little old saying that everyone else around us says
“time flies”.
24 has been a rollercoaster year but even more a year of discovery.
24 brought a lot of heartbreak. I didn’t write about this months ago because
I’m still trying to find the words to even define my heart or mind, but year 24 was the year I lost not only my first ever but also my second loved one.
I’m grateful to say that my family had not experienced a hard death in my
family for most of my life but within a matter of months we lost both, my
grandpa and my 21-year-old nephew, Christian, who was more like my little brother.
Not even a week after Thanksgiving we lost my grandpa to his fight with
Leukemia. It was a God thing that I was able to fly back to Indiana for
Thanksgiving the week before his passing to say goodbye. It was like he was
waiting for me to say goodbye.
About five-ish months later we lost my oldest nephew, Christian, to a fight
with depression and he decided that he didn’t want to fight anymore. It breaks my heart knowing that there are people in our everyday lives who go about and attempt to fight these demons on their own and feel like there’s no way out except for taking their own lives. Within forty-eight hours I again jumped on a plane back to Indiana to say my goodbyes. He would have turned 22 last month.
24 brought me to a lot of questions for myself and God.
24 had me rewinding a lot of memories and wishing that I could just go back to the easier days in my undergrad college career at Olivet.
24 had me flipping through social media memories with my college tennis
team, my worship band, the ministries I served on, and all the other joys of
college… it tempted me to give up everything I’ve worked so hard for and
sacrificed everything to make my mark in California.
I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t ever tempted to move back to my
college town in the suburbs of Chicago where it would just be easier.
I had my friends, I was comfortable with the area, and it was the place
where I honestly found myself… so now what?
I had a follow up with one of my mentors not too long ago and he was asking me all the typical questions about work and whatnot. And then the conversation started to transition into the real stuff that mentors want to know about.
I was honest and open and explained how I just felt lost. I moved out to
Southern California almost two years ago to make my mark and work in
entertainment. And I was starting to get confused, impatient, and very
discouraged.
At the time, I wasn’t getting the positions I was interviewing for, my work
life was getting way too hectic balancing the current positions that I had at
the time which prevented me enjoying my personal/ social life, and my family back home in the Midwest was hurting. Oh, and I was lagging in grad school. I’ve been in the same accounting class for an additional semester, but math has never been my strong point… lol
I wanted to quit, and I wanted out.
And it was also hindering my faith.
And then it hit me, if I just packed up and quit everything all of my work
and sacrifice would have been for nothing.
My mentor then began to tell me what I was experiencing was what’s simply called the “Quarter Life Crisis”.
Apparently, we as Millennials have a tendency of being way too hard on
ourselves and the awful habits of comparison, perfectionism, and type A personalities really get the best of us.
I’m a huge victim of it.
Shortly after my talk with my mentor I did a lot of self-reflection and a
few “Come to Jesus” moments.
He began to remind me that I have the passions in my heart and strengths
that I have within me because He gave all of those to me.
He put the desires that I have in my heart for a purpose- those were not man-made.
I want to work in entertainment make be a difference and shine the light of
Christ through one of the biggest outlets that this world has.
During the times when I thought I was falling behind others in the industry,
He reminded me that I didn’t even have a clue what I wanted to do really until after I finished my bachelor’s degree.
He reminded me that I finished my bachelor’s degree in four years right
after graduating high school, while playing a sport and working. And not
everyone can do that.
During the times when I would question myself why I am still an intern in
graduate school, He reminded me that I fully enjoyed my
undergraduate career so much and wouldn’t have had any time to take on an entertainment internship in California.
During the times when I question why I am making the wage of an intern while holding a bachelor’s degree, He reminded me that at this time I don’t need to invest as much in my bank account. He reminded me that I need to invest in experience, people, and my career.
He reminded me that the opportunities that I am being given now are being
placed in front of me for such a time as this, for a purpose.
He reminded me that within not even two years yet, I have worked for not one not two but three leading entertainment companies in the industry.
One of the things that I have always struggled with is wanting to be
“more” or how can I get “better” and succeed to the next
level.
I think what 24 has taught me the most is that sometimes we have to stop
comparing or asking ourselves what could be better, or how can we become “more”?
24 taught me how to seek simplicity in the right now and how to be present.
On that note, I’m praising and thanking Jesus for another year.
Despite a lot of tears and confusion, I’m thanking Him for a year full of
memories, opportunities, and lots of laughter.
And to all of those who have been in my tribe since day one- from the
Midwest, to SoCal, and everywhere else across the country, thank you for
cheering me on even in my quiet days when I secretly wanted to quit.
I couldn’t have made it this far without you.
Here’s to preparing for 25 to be another memorable year, and finally able to
rent a car without a million fees for being too young ;).
Much Love;
Brooke
P.S.- Peep a glimpse from my latest career update, working my first show as the Publicity Intern at Def Jam. Here’s to the memories #JesusIsKing #KanyeWest